About

Shameless Grounds
1901 Withnell Ave.
Saint Louis, MO. 63118

Contact Us:
Phone: (314) 449-1240
Or Message us via Social Media (links at bottom of every page)

Business Hours:
WED-THUR-FRI-SAT-SUN 10am to 5pm, kitchen closes at 4.
MON 6pm to 10pm, kitchen closes at 9.
TUE – CLOSED

WHAT WE’RE ALL ABOUT –

We’re the Coffeeshop and Cafe with the Sex Positive Theme!

Our Mission: To provide diverse populations access to a non-judgmental, sex-positive, radically-inclusive gathering place.

What We Do: Serve great food and drink. Provide a place to relax, read a book, work on your laptop, or hang out with friends. Provide a place to hold events, classes, and workshops.

Folks Who Might Dig Us: Does your love life fall “outside the box”? Maybe you’re a guy who likes guys, or a girl who likes girls. Or maybe you like both, or just don’t care about gender.  Maybe a firm hand and a riding crop are the things that reliably take you to your happy place. Maybe you aren’t chained to one spot on the gender or orientation spectrums. Maybe you don’t consider monogamy to be the only realistic option. Or maybe none of these applies to you right now, but you’re curious and you want to learn, and to hang out with like-minded individuals.  We get it.

What We Believe: That “box” we fall outside of is tiny. It’s cramped and confined, and when you think about it, it’s always been a myth.  The desires of most people fall outside of that box in one way or another. Almost everybody likes at least a few sprinkles with their vanilla. People like us, we make up the vast sexual majority. And we think it’s about time somebody created a warm, open, public place that calls shenanigans on the entire “box” paradigm. We’re going to be working hard to make Shameless Grounds a place like that.

Got Questions?
A lot of folks are super curious about us because we’re not your ordinary coffeeshop.
So, here’s a list of Frequently Asked Questions.

Lol!  We get this one all the time.  No.  We’re a coffeeshop and cafe that has a sex-positive theme. We’re not a club, or a pick-up spot, or a porn shop, or any kind of hardcore “Adult” anything.  We are 18+ unless accompanied by a parent or guardian, but that’s just because we don’t want your kids getting an education here that you were not aware of.  😉

We do hold some social events, and some folks, without actually checking, have taken that to mean we’re a swingers club or a sex club or something like that.   We’re NOT.   We’re just a cafe and coffeeshop that has a Sex Positive Theme.   

When you come in, what you’re going to see is standard coffeeshop stuff.   Folks sitting and eating, hanging out with friends, working on laptops, reading…  that sort of thing.   There is some sexy art on the walls, and some sexy merchandise on display, and our general theme is Sex Positivity.   But that’s as spicy as it gets.  Treat your visit like any other public restaurant or coffeeshop while your here, please.

Yeah, we get that a lot too.  Sorry to disappoint.  But we’ll try to give you some info on finding the spice in and around St. Louis.

First, there are no public Swinger or Sex Clubs in the City of St. Louis.  There are laws in the City that make that pretty much impossible.   There used to be some publicly open clubs/places across the river in Illinois where you could go and legally have sex or watch others, but they all went out of business during COVID, and nothing has taken their place.

So there are zero public venues in or around town where it’s legal to just walk in, and be able to have sex, or watch others have sex.   Now, there are places that may *happen*, but it’s going to be on the down low and not advertised.  Think “Adult Theaters” or “Truckstop Glory Holes”, or “Dogging in the Park”.   These situations are usually not terribly clean, or terribly safe, or terribly classy.  But, if you’re a hardcore thrillseeker, then they are there, you just gotta try your luck and avoid getting busted.

If you want something a little more classy, and not illegal, you’re going to need to find the PRIVATE sexy events out there.  Going to one of these is not a spur of the moment decision you can make on Friday night.  You’re going to have to make some friends, get to know some folks, and you’ll need to be a member or a guest of a member, or somehow be vetted, to get an invitation and access to these.   But depending on who’s running them, they can be much cleaner, safer, and more welcoming, than say, illicit sex in the dark adult theater.   To develop that friend network, start by going to sexy events that are open to the public.  Check out our LINKS page to find some places that hold these events.   We’re biased, but we think one of the best such events is our ENM Night

Now these open-to-the-public events will NOT allow public sex, but they’ll be full of people you can get to know, and some of those people will have info on the more sexual private events.   You can also make online friends on swinger websites like Swinglifestyle or Couples ForePlay.  Basically, you just have to hang around the sexy crowd, be fun, be courteous, be trustworthy, until you make friends with some folks who will share their info with you.  That’s the best way to find the deets, and get the invitations.

It could have been anything.   But if you really like the music that’s playing when certain people work, here are links to their favorite Spotify playlists.  Good chance it was one of these playing.   🙂

Aubz:
Batbitch
Queer Summer Vibes or Whatever

Starshine:
The Road to Punk Rock

Kay:
Foxy Vibes

Michelle:
Michelle’s Kind

Andy:
Andy’s Standard
Turn Up the Radio
Boomtown Rats And Such